SintimSpeaks#12… It’s 2018 … Be unapologetically yourself !!!!




SintimSpeaks#12… It’s 2018 … Be unapologetically yourself!!!!

yes guys be unapologetically you , it’s 2018 this means living  a life that is more fulfilling , being comfortable in your own skin , making more conscious choices in your life that benefit you because your life belongs to you and only you can determine what you will and will not put up with , if you have CUT OFFFFF that useless individual cut them off , that relationship your in is not working end it and get your money up sis , you only have one life live it !!!! and one more thing learn how to love yourself as I have , because at the end of the day the only person that can care for you the way you really want to be cared for is the person who you see in the mirror every morning when you wake up.

yeah … I know your probably reading this saying this is easier said than done but really are truly it’s not that hard once you put in your head ” I am not taking this any bullshit” it will push you to do things you’ll later look back on and say “I’m glad I done that” and not say “why didn’t I do that”. while some people find it hard to love themselves recognising that yes there are flaws in your beauty and no one on this earth is perfect it will give you that extra help, for me personally I have a huge scar on top of my left eyelid and for a long time I was very insecure about it but as soon as I learned to love myself with my flaws I don’t let it get in my way of what I’m doing, to be honest I forget it’s there unless someone notices it.

As of 2018 I want all my readers to live their best lives. smash each and every goal you have set yourselves this year! do as you please, don’t let anyone tell you how you should be but lastly and most importantly BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOUUUUUUUUUUUUU!!!

Bible quotations for this post

1 Thessalonians 3:12

and may the Lord cause you to increase and abound in love for one another, and for all people, just as we also do for you;

Philippians 1:6

For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.

James 1:4

And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing




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SintimSpeaks#11 Turning 23…

Where do I start… i would like to thank everyone that’s has shown me support and has sent me words of encouragement to keep pushing forward and not let anything get me down as I start this new journey of blogging, I hope you all learn something from my stories , or even teach others from them as these are my real life events and thoughts God bless you all ❤️ (All of you that promoted I see you all !!!)

-Proverbs 14:1<<<<<<

Right so December 15th , 9 DAYS !!!!!! I will be turning 23 , I am actually getting old , but I like to say growing gracefully old .  I always look forward to this day as its the  only 24 hours of the year that can be solely about me , but also on the day I like to  look at it as time to reflect back on the year, all the accomplishments I have made and the lessons that were learned. On that  day every year I look into the past and I always find myself saying, "I would have never thought…" or " I really set out what I wanted to do" I always give thanks to God for protecting me throughout year but especially more on my birthday.

whilst I've loved every minute of being even the not so great parts  , I am ready to turn 23 the GOALSSSSSS I have set my selfffff chileee … let me not talk too much as I have written down these goals and working towards them  I  already know  God is working and we all know we can we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us .

So now to my 22-year-old self , you are beautiful , smart and creative , I would like to thank you for everything you've taught me you have shaped me into the powerful woman I am destined to be , Also Lord carry on using me to teach believers and non believers your word , I will always give thanks to you and keep praising your name and I also thank you for what your about to do in my life which is adding another year for me to learn , grow and flourish how I am supposed to .


Now on to Libya as you've all have probrably heard or seen whats going on this breaks my heart and i still cant get my head around how in 2017 this is still going on if you an reader from london and would like to join the PEACEFUL protest there is infomation below THIS NEEDS TO STOPPP !!! IMG_2094[117]<

ible Quotations I based this post on

Philippians 4:13<<<<<<
do all things through Christ[a] who strengthens me

1 Chronicles 4:10.<<<<<<
or you, be strong and do not give up, for your work will be rewarded.

Proverbs 3:5-6<<<<<<
in the Lord with all your heart and  lean not on your own understanding;6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.


SintimSpeaks#10 I’ve forgiven you …. but please stay away from me!!

SintimSpeaks#10 I’ve forgiven you …. but please stay away from me!!

I love you all, you guys keep me going with your beautiful, kind words thank you all and god bless you all

Right let’s start, if you’ve got me on Snapchat then you would have seen I had a really angry outburst about 2 weeks ago and loads of my readers and friends messaged me I was touched it was so lovely to see such people rooting for me. This is when I knew I needed to address this the only way I know how through blogging although I wanted to tump this girl in her throat but like I always say violence isn’t the answer.

Beware some of the people you consider your “friends” some are wolves clothed in sheep’s skin, really read the signs and the things they do around you because I completely missed them at really took this girl as my sister, we used to be on the phone for hours bussing joke, she’d even talk to my mum . she was basically famliy in my eyes , we’d go out to eat , we’d advise each other if we were going through something because that’s what friends do right!!

Little did I know this girl was ruining my name behind my back all of a sudden, mutual friend of ours started being off with me I’d call this girl to ask why she said she doesn’t know, I used to sit there and think endlessly what have I done to these people. Imagine we meet in such a holy place so I couldn’t believe it when I found out it was her in fact I cried as if you personally know me I don’t cry unless it’s something serious.

I cannot stress this enough I do not want anyone to feel sorry for me at all I just want you to read it and take something from it here’s a couple signs that I completely missed , when your friends with someone and they make a comment about something you over look it because their your friend at the time but how many times do you need to do this before you realise that there actually insulting you … “you should wear make up more often” If you personally know me I don’t wear makeup unless it’s my birthday or and special occasion , I don’t even know how to put it on I can hold my hands up that lol , so after like the 3rd time she said it I said I like my face how it is I don’t need make up to make me feel better or pretty enough for you or anyone tbh .

Sign number 2 when they call you and start talking about someone else, this means they are talking about you to someone else, yes, they are talking about you too believe it not even just that they are going back to the people and saying what you said and not what they have said to make themselves look the good one, in some cases they will have you  on loudspeaker with the person they report back to this has happened to me so I know what I’m talking about. yeah, I know mad init.

Sign number 3 when you’ve spent your hard-earned money on something then they insult saying its banter… kmtttt banter where I will never ever forget this it you’ve got me on Snapchat I took a picture of some trainers I bought “Adidas tubular camouflage print” to be precise anyway I put the picture up went to do what I’m doing went to bed woke up the next morning for work. I see a Snapchat message I opened it is says “Fucking Bitch” I said “huh why?” Imagine her reply was because I like them why do you have them, then I started to notice this is not normal friends don’t insult you for not reason especially when you’ve got something they want that’s a bit off and uncalled for.

Sign number 4 this will be the last sign to look out for , as if I write everything we’ll be here for decades,  so the last one is when they don’t defend you when you’re not there but come and tell you what someone has said “she said you’re really rude and annoying” and my reply was “what did you say? “I didn’t say anything because I don’t want to get involved” huh what I can’t comprehend what you just said you claim my friend and you didn’t say anything at this point everything was clear she wasn’t the friend I thought she was everything added up now I was the fool but it’s okay I learned my lesson never to be so trusting again.

I’m not going to sit there and say I’m perfect because I’m not, no one is really but I 1000% know that it’s not okay to treat anyone like this, or allow anyone to treat you like that. As soon as you clock onto these signs confront them and how it ends will determine if they are your friend or just  another lesson learnt .one other thing just because there from the same country as you doesn’t mean they really like you it just a convenience.

One last thing

To all the people you’ve spread these horrible rumours about me to I’ve heard them all I will not repeat on here as it’s absolutely disgusting and i dont know how someone could make up such horrid things , I’ll just leave you to god I wish you all the success in life and everything you set to do goes on well for you but as the title says

“I’ve forgiven you, but please stay away from me”


Bible quotations I’ve based this on are:

Ephesians 4:31-32

Get rid of all bitterness, passion, and anger. No more shouting or insults, no more hateful feelings of any sort. Instead, be kind and tender-hearted to one another, and forgive one another, as God has forgiven you through Christ.

Matthew 6:14-15

If you forgive others the wrongs they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done.

Matthew 5:8

God blesses those whose hearts are pure, for they will see God.




Luke 17:3-4

3 So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.  4 Even if they sin against you seven times in a day and seven times come back to you saying ‘I repent,’ you must forgive them.”


SintimSpeaks#9 Take the L and move on …. Better things are COMING !!!



SintimSpeaks#9 Take the L and move on …. Better things are coming!!!

I know I must sound like a broken record but thank you all so much I can’t believe the support I’ve been getting, I am so thankful from the bottom of my heart, God bless you all.

Yes, sometimes take the L and move on, just because you didn’t get the dream job you wanted, secure the man or woman you wanted or have enough money for that one bag it doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world it just means it wasn’t for you at the time, not everything in life you want is easy to get and sometimes once you have it it’s not really worth it to be honest.

I’m going to say it again Take the L and move on …. I know at the time all types of emotions will be running through your mind and you’ll be thinking “what’s going on?” “why’s this happening to me?” But just there are think nothing worth having will come to you that easily so if you really want something fight for it within reason.

Say it with me guys better things are coming our way…Better health, better relationships, better finances, true happiness and so much more AMENNN! yes, we are ready to accept it all, I believe that as a christian god is always willing to give us what we ask for if we ask it may not come straight away but will come when you are ready to receive it, I feel like a christian this is one of the critical secrets to being able to manifest what we want into our lives.

Even me I recently had to take a very big and painful L but you know what I’ve kept my head high, kept it pushing and I know 100% better things are coming my way. Sorry for the week break I had blogging I had a hectic and really busy week I hope you all like this, and thanks for all your beautiful words of encouragement ❤️

Bible Quotations I based this blog post on:

Luke 12:22-26

“Do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?”

Proverbs 19:21

“Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.”

Joshua 1:9

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”



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SintimSpeaks#8 Actually I can do it 

SintimSpeaks#8 Actually I can do it


Blog number 8 …. I’m really living my best life through blogging, it’s reached countries I never imagined it’s all God, I’m also very lucky to have such beautiful readers, and an incredible support system around me thank you all so much your thoughtful words of encouragement will always keep me going ❤️



Looool loads of people have asked about the story time blog (if you’ve been reading from the first blog you’ll know) … don’t worry it’s going to come sooner than you think!!!

Actually, I can do it … yeah let them know when you’re faced with something you think it’s out of your reach you just sit there and say you know what “Actually I can do it. All my life I’ve had people say “Lisa you can do that” well that’s what you think but you’re not me and I know with the drive and determination I have instilled in myself there’s nothing I set to do in life I can’t do with God on my side.

So, what I’m saying is that never ever think there’s nothing in this world you cannot do, even if people doubt you, work so hard that they turn around see your success and eat their words, without drive and ambition you’ll think you’re incapable of accomplishing your set goals in life so having the mentality of I can do it I’m promise you can never fail.

Having can-do attitude can help you in anything and everything you do in life If you look at situations in a positive light, you can open yourself up to new opportunities and accomplishments with this can-do attitude you gain a sense of motivation will make you look at every situation with a sense of enthusiasm.

So, my final words to you are keep your thoughts positive by using positive language, and just really having a positive outlook and block out all challenging negativity behaviour directly and even indirectly, keep shining my beautiful readers and once again thank you all for taking the time to read my blogs.


Bible Quotations I based this blog post on were

Proverbs 3:5-6

5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

Matthew 21:22

You can pray for anything, and if you have faith, you will receive it.

Psalm 27:13

Yet I am confident I will see the Lord’s goodness while I am here in the land of the living.

SintimSpeaks#7 Life is like a book … only you can write your chapters

SintimSpeaks#7 Life is like a book … only you can write your chapters


So, I’ve made it to blog number 7 woooooo yaaay let me big up myself. But the biggest thanks is going to you guys for reading and keeping me going with your beautiful words of encouragement GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!

Yes, life is definitely like a book but the difference with this book is that your writing it you know what you want to go in it and you know what you don’t want to go in it, although some things can’t be helped, you’ll make some mistakes but you’ll learn, but ultimately you make the choices and don’t let anyone ever tell you anything different it’s your life live it how you want at the end of the day.

If you personally know me all my friends and family will tell my most favourite saying “DO YOU MAN” yes this applies to anything and everything you do in life just do you and all the beautiful things that will come from it will make you happy and fulfilled, also the more you “do you” you’ll see others follow in these footsteps and feel great about themselves too.

As the title says “life is like a book … only you can write your chapters, well I added a chapter to mine and attended the British Black Bloggers event. I’m not going to lie to you it was daunting to be going on my own but once I was there I had so much fun, met some really beautiful and incredible bloggers it was really worth it I gained so much knowledge that was key to blogging that I didn’t even think would matter. I really hope to meet other creatives in the future and that itself is key how do you expect to grow your audience if you don’t mingle and attend events. I am actually really excited for their next event !!!

In my eyes constantly reaching out for different, more affluent and deeper, life-changing experiences is very good for personal growth and confidence. I really feel like having events like that is good for pushing the boundaries of yourself mentally, spirituality, and intellectually for the betterment of yourself and the different stages you’ll come across in life.

One piece of advice I will share with all my readers is that in life not everyone will understand why you’re doing certain things and will begin to become distant or even discourage you. Don’t let it get to or get you down like I have in the past. There is something within you they do not want to shine and that is not your fault at all I promise you, it’s them they weren’t supposed to be your “friend” in the first place, when they leave that’s when that chapter with them is over for the better.


Jeremiah 29:11

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Philippians 4:6-8

6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

2 Thessalonians 1:3

We ought always to give thanks to God for you, brethren, as is only fitting, because your faith is greatly enlarged, and the love of each one of you toward one another grows ever greater

I hope you all enjoy this post and thank you all once again for the support and encouragement ❤️


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SintimSpeaks#6 They can bun my flesh, but they can’t touch my SPIRIT



SintimSpeaks#6 They can BUN my flesh, but they can’t touch my SPIRIT


Sooo I had a little week off but I’m definitely back, thank you all for your messages, I will remain to bring you all the best of my work and never let anyone irrelevant get to me again 👊🏾🙏🏾❤️

“They can bun my flesh, but they can’t touch my spirit” your singing it now init lol, yes, it’s a tuneeeeee but if it wasn’t for lyrics of the talented J Hus and a couple of people that are god sent I really would have given up blogging for good.

This week I experienced the ugly side of blogging, I’m not going to lie it did get to me I’m only human, but then again, it’s expected when you speak the truth not a lot of people will like you, but I don’t blog to be liked I blog so that people can learn from my experiences.

“You don’t look like a blogger your ugly”

Yeah imagine someone said to me , I was taken back and wondered why someone would add me on Snapchat to say such a horrible thing but then I thought about it then I remembered that not everyone will get what I’m doing and it’s life , so in life you’ll come across loads of people like that , what you need to do is show them you’re strong and try not to let it get to you even though it’s hard and at the time you’ll want to fly through the phone to knock them out. (violence isn’t the answer)

“Your blogs are actually really shit …. please give up”

This actually made me laugh, at this point I felt like this is petty now, do my blogs hurt you? Is this personal? I just don’t understand why people have time to do these things, let me blog in peace, no one sent you to come and comment. I know I’m not the only one to go through this and not everyone will write about it but I feel like more people should. The more you try and discourage me, the more it will make me determined to do what I came to do, I didn’t come this far, for anyone to come and put me down. As I am Christian I live by the quotation Isaiah 54:17

There so many things that were said to me that I cannot repeat, I wasn’t going to post this but like I’ve said over and over again I love people to learn from my blog and all I can be is real and pure. It doesn’t matter what stage you are in life you will always get “irrelevant” people who will try and put you down. Don’t let them win, that’s what they want most of the time they are unhappy with something in their own life and putting others down somehow makes them feel better which is never ok.


So, keep your head up and keep shining your light so bright it blinds them #SintimSpeaks💫

Bible Quotations I based this blog post on were:

Ephesians 4:31:
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.

1 Peter 4:12-14
Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial when it comes upon you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice insofar as you share Christ’s sufferings, that you may also rejoice and be glad when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted for the name of Christ, you are blessed, because the Spirit of glory and of God rests upon you.

Luke 6:22
Blessed are you when people hate you and when they exclude you and revile you and spurn your name as evil, on account of the Son of Man!

Isaiah 54:17
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and their righteousness is of me, saith the Lord.

I have had some good news this week one of my favourite youtubers followed me on twitter ( I’m flipping gassedddd mate)

even though I feel like it should be celebrated all year around HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH !!!!

I hope you all enjoy this post and thank you all once again for the support and encouragement ❤️


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SintimSpeaks#5 When women support each other its incredible you could end up in …….. MIAMI BEACH BABY

SintimSpeaks#5 When women support each other it’s incredible you could end up in …….. MIAMI BEACH BABY!!!!

SOOO…. Blog number 5 is different from my usual posts but you’ll like it I promise… well I hope you will *fingers crossed*. Thankyouuuu once again I see all of you that are sending me feedback, retweeting me promoting me on your Snapchat’s you’re all amazing it’s things like that will keep me going God bless you all

Right so if you have me on Snap Chat  you would have seen that I was at an event on the 2/10/2017. The event was a collaboration between GoaldiggerPc, Luxe Vida, Shannie and GirlsTalkLondon it was a movie night at Miami Beach …. in Elephant and Castle, as far as I’m concerned, I was in Miami there was real sand (YEAH REAL SAND !!!)

At this event there was powerful panel of inspiring people such as Bianca Miller-Cole who is an Entrepreneur, she spoke about so many of her amazing accomplishments but the one that stood out for me was her business of nude tights THERE IS NUDE FOR US BLACK GIRLS !!!… I then later went to do research on her and this woman is incredible she even she’s got a new book out I shall also be purchasing this. I really admire this woman and aspire to be like her one day. People she was on the apprentice so you this woman is the ultimate Boss lady!!!!

The founder of Urban Lawyers Tunde Okewale MBE was also there and when I mean every word he said stuck in my head … you needed to be there despite the fact he grew up in East London this did not stop him from becoming the famous and respected barrister he is today. The thing that I loved about him the most is that’s he’s real. I see a lot of myself in him we even studied at the same university lol so that’s a plus. If he’d let all doubters get in his head he would not be where he is today. we all need to be like this sometimes is just fear that holds us back to becoming the person we’re supposed to become. What’s written is written !!!

Also on the panel there was also one half of the amazing creators of VampUk Christina Ok. VampUk up are social marketing agency that championship diversity in particular women or colour who are in the public eye, they work close in hand with influencers that who are successfully representing and focusing on the currently underrepresented market, what made me really respect them that they are go getters and have such a boss spirit about them they had a dream and wasn’t afraid to follow it, this is inspiring to me and will definitely inspire a few people I know. They have an ongoing survey please take time to do it I’ll post the link below 👊🏾


The last person that was on the panel was one of the trio from 3shots of tequila yes, I listen to it and I loveeeee it 😂🙌🏾, in my eyes this is one of the bravest men  to walk this earth Mr Keith Dube, he spoke about how he made a few bad decisions in his like but has now changed it around, he is now an author, podcaster, blogger and even made a documentary where he talks about his battle with mental health(depression) , as he was speaking I was thinking what an amazing person, he is helping a lot of people and he doesn’t  even know how much his words alone will and have impacted but also  touched and inspired millions across the country. I really predict big this for this man and everyone that was on the panel. Keep shining your lights and inspiring young people such as myself.


Now onto the QUEENS behind this event GoalDiggerPc, LuxeVida, Shannie and GirlsTalkLondon where do I even start you ladies need to big up yourselves to the fullest, have never ever felt so welcomed at an event in my life, everyone was so nice, the whole atmosphere was positive. I often feel really uncomfortable when I’m at an event on my own but not at one point did I feel this when I was there everyone was friendly and nice.

Everything was planned so on point it ran so smoothly, you could see that they genuinely supported each other and it was the sisterhood it was amazing to see so many women and some men in the same place supporting the movement and each other. There was no way you could’ve left that place and not felt motivated and inspired to make some goals and then pursue them.

First of all, let me congratulate LuxeVida as this was their first event and it SOLD OUT! This is a very big accomplishment and I personally know how stressful putting an event together can be, one thing I can say these ladies have an amazing support system around them and will flourish in the event planning world BIG UP YOUSELVES LADIES!!!   The only thing I was upset about was that I missed out on a goody bag from the amazing sponsors of the night ORS HAIRRRRR if you ever saw my face when they told me they had run out, there’s always next time I will get one for sureeee it’s a must lol!!!  but you see what I’m talking about throughout this whole post the support all these people have for each other is out of this world.

Let me talk about the film (yesss even that was inspiring), the film was called joy, the film is based on a true story I did my research. I’m trying not to give too much away for anyone that hasn’t seen it go watch it. right so joy despite all the odds became phenomenal businesswoman … her own sister didn’t believe in her and tried to really undermine her at times, but did she let this stop her NOOO !!!, she was in debts up to her eyeballs did that stop her NOOO!!! I’m saying too much already go and watch the film it will change your life tbh.

I am a proud member of the GoalDiggerpc  a power circle put together by Chams if you don’t know who she is you’ve been living under a rock all your life , infact go search her up .She has done so many amazing thin. I urge my fellow sisters to come and join this power circle you’ll meet people from all walks of life you’ll learn so much and the support they give you is incredible, it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made and I promise you, you will not regret it. As we all know if you surround yourself with people who reflect you and how you want to be and how you want to feel their energies are contagious and you will begin to follow their footsteps.

Ps to all my friends that are makeup crazy GirlsTalkLondon are having a pop up festival with Vee Chanda & Lori Bee on the 23rd of November GET YOUR TICKETS NOW!!!! The link is on their insta bio GirlsTalkLondon go get them.

Also, I just seen today that’s Shannie one the phenomenal people behind the beautiful event I went to is having an event for creatives the link is her Instagram bio Insta: Shannieloves

Bible Quotations I based this blog post on were:

Matthew 5:16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven

Philippians 2:4 “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”

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SintimSpeaks#4 Relax Sis…. He’s not YOUR Bank Account !!!!


SintimSpeaks#4 Relax sis … He’s not your bank account 


By the grace of God, I’ve made it to blog post 4, God has been strong throughout this journey of mine and I will always give thanks to him 🙌🏾🙏🏾 everyone who has given me feedback, shouted me out, retweeted me and even called me to tell me to keep pushing through THANKYOU so much I really appreciate it and God bless you all 🙌🏾

Right all this week I’ve had “when you going to do one for the mandem Lis” Today 27/09/2017 is the day 🙋🏾 

Before I start this is not a personal dig at anyone, this is for you to learn and better yourself as a woman and just do better. 


“If he doesn’t pay we’re not eating”

If you personally know me you’ll know this makes my blood boil … what kind of mentality is this, alright yes if he did ask you out he’s probably going to pay, but if he doesn’t what’s stopping you from doing it, it shows your character, and if he’s a serious person it will most definitely impress him and make him more interested in pursuing you further as I said in my last blog post not all men are trash, but some of you don’t help yourselves 


“He’s got to look like he earns ……. amount before he can even talk to me” 

I’m really going to scrimmmmm, this is another one that gets me angryyyyy. Someone actually said this while I was talking to them this week (I’ve asked permission to include this in my blog post before some of you start) in my mind I was like are you even earning half of this to even be saying that. Sometimes HUMBLE yourself I understand we want some sort of financial stability yes that’s great … but what are you bringing to the table? Imagine you’re married to this man and he loses his job are YOU going to be able to hold it down it’s not always rely on the man … try and be a Rachel and your Jacob will come (Genesis 29 1-30)


“He’s not my type … he’s too this, he’s too that” 

Even me, yes, I’m saying it I’ve been guilty of this “he’s too nice”, “I’ll walk all over him”. “He’s too this, He’s too that ” Sometimes give the guy who isn’t your “type” a chance because it’s really true God really does work in mysterious ways, and you never know what it could end up being. 

And lastly 


“But all  MEN ARE TRASH”  

I cannot stress this enough not all men are trash, this was also said in the conversation I was having this week it makes me sad because of how some men are treating women, it’s hard know who’s serious and who’s not but I promise you they are not all like that and once your Mr Right walks into your life you’ll know. 

As lady rev Adelaide Heard mills once said, it takes humility to say you don’t deserve my love because of your behaviour but because there is a higher love from God, I humble myself. I put down my pride and I allow myself to love you even when you are unlovable. That is the virtuous woman on display’. 

 As a woman I believe building yourself is also key, the following bible quotation is something I strongly believe in and is my favourite bible quotation 


Proverbs 14-1

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.


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SintimSpeaks#3 Deeply in LOVE ….With a WASTEMAN

SintimSpeaks#3 Deeply in LOVE … With a WASTEMAN

WOW so I’ve made to blog three , honestly from the old supporters to the new thank you so much I wouldn’t be able to do this without you guys !!!

Before I start let me make this clear I am not bashing men in any way at all I want people to learn from this , not just to learn but to teach others

Yes I’m saying it not all men are TRASH .. but some of you don’t really help yourselves

“You’ll never get anyone better than me”

The words that stuck with me for years, you can put your all into someone , be the ride or die they want you to be , be at their beck and call , but yet this will never be enough . Let me be the first to tell you there is nothing wrong with you , it took me a long time to learn this I’d sit there and think “what am I doing wrong ?” , “why is he being like this ?” This made me so out of touch with myself to the point when I was angry at myself I’d project it onto my friends… it wasn’t their fault at all I just didn’t know how to express what I was going through.

“You can try and leave , who’s gonna want you….apart from me Kmt”

I still remember how much this affected me and if anyone has ever or is saying it to you get out as quick as you can … you need to “KNOW YOUR WORTH” and never settle for anything less man or woman , you can’t have someone think they “own” you although you are in a relationship you are  still are your own person and don’t forget what makes you who you are.

“Go then , you know you’ll come straight back ”

The day I had enough and left and NEVER went back , although I did feel lost for while i always knew I had God’s love and that was enough to keep me going in the bible it’s says ‘You are precious in my sight. You are honoured and I love you’. Isaiah 43:4 and with that in my heart I knew I’d made the right decision to leave never turn back.

I completely missed the signs , but you don’t need to at all , I know some of my readers aren’t religious but you can still relate

Many times we chase certain people that weren’t actually supposed to be in our lives but God allows you to chase them to show you that they can never complete you. We can only be complete in Christ. You chased after these people and they only hurt and disappointed you. God tries to warn us but we never notice how bad they actually are for us. So God allows them to hurt us so we can learn from these experiences. (God wants the best for each and every one of you. Jeremiah 29:11).

But if you know anyone going through this or even going through this right now I will quote scriptures that helped me

1 Corinthians 16:13:  Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.

2. 1 Peter:12-13 Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal among you, which comes upon you for your testing, as though some strange thing were happening to you; but to the degree that you share the sufferings of Christ, keep on rejoicing, so that also at the revelation of His glory you may rejoice with exultation.”

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